Why do we blacks celebrate living in the Ghetto 

I grew up in a southern ghetto and in my teens we moved to an urban ghetto. The two had similarities and stark difference.  In 1987 the one I went to, Newark, NJ embraced ghetto existence where the one I left, Greensboro,  NC didn’t.  It puzzled me that living in the ghetto could be a source of community identity and alligence. Where I came from we wanted out of our ghettos. 

Examination of the history of northern ghettos showed a patern of exodus from the ghettos by the original tenants, European immigrants who live there before black people took their places.  They had no desire to stay there yet blacks claimed the corners, the atmosphere,  the life in the ghetto as “keeping it real”. Why? Is it making the best of a bad situation?  I can only speculate since I didn’t feel the same way but I believe it was because black people want so desperately to own a piece of Americana that we will take what no one else wants as long as we can say it is ours. If that’s true it’s an indication that for all our efforts the  American dream is “just” a dream for those who think the ghettos of America is where they belong. #ghettolife, #nyc, #democratic,  #republican,  #America,  #Africanamerican, #americandream, #hiphop, #rap 

Colin Kaepernick’s worth to the NFL is microcosm of American  value system 

Let’s start with the gorilla in the room. Colin Kaepernick is being black balled because he is a black man who bucked the system by not standing up for the flag. That’s a little Spike Lee-ish of me. Or the owners are taking a moral stand for the sanctity of the Flag, that was my Trump impression . Ok…yeah he is a piriah with his 70s ‘fro and misguided crusade. The NFL owners don’t want him and after his admission to not having voted Black folks don’t respect his consciousness.  Man its tough being Kap. 

The American value system is out of whack. We love the flag but it is just a symbol.  We love freedom of speech right, it’s more than a symbol, right, it’s the American Way…ain’t it, no really,  ain’t it? They seem to be at odds here. How is that even possible?  I will tell you how, our value system has nothing grounding it. It seems to flutter around on the winds of societal whims.

Let’s look at the situation.  He is a middling QB with some issues. So many are saying he is out of work because he isn’t great but everyone who says that admits he could backup most places.  So what is it, he ain’t no good therefore unemployed or he is a problem child no one wants to touch? I tell you what if he had Aaron Rogers type skills he would be on somebody’s team even if he wiped his, well you know, with the flag and there you have it. 

Our moral outrage is counter balanced by what value we place on him. Meaning our morals have a value themselves. Yes, you are correct moral are SUPPOSED to be priceless.  Look at Ray Rice and Greg Hardy. I’m not sure beating women is tantamount to not standing for the flag but one player (the one on the decline) never played again after he knocked out his fiancee and the other (the one with double digit sacks when last he played) “deserved a second chance ” after he beat and threatened to kill a woman. How did that happen?

America’s value system is reflected in the Kap situation because if he were better he would have a job regardless of the Flag and that’s not how a value system is supposed to work. A value system is supposed to be rooted in morals and moral are supposed to be unwavering. We have work to do America. #spikelee, #nfl, #Kaepernick, #Ray Rice, #trump, #America, #Americanvalues, #morals, #Americanflagprotest, #blacklivesmatter 


The Tourney is America 

This is the greatest sporting event of the year. The most America sporting event and it’s why we love it. Think about the American way, its ok to have a a way, lol. Everyone has a chance to suceed. EVERYONE. 351 schools all have a shot at making the tournament and whoever, on a level playing field, earns it can go. What is more American than that? 

It is an American original since 1891. It is an American export that has become a passion of the world. The world that sends it best and brightest to American schools were they contribute to the game. What’s more American than that?

We love football like Christmas, a holiday for the world. We love the Tourney like Thanksgiving, a strictly America original. #goheels, #ncaa, #marchmadness, #acc, #Naismith, #America,  #college basketball

God is out of style…

God is out of style for the loud minority in America and I understand. I remember examining religion as a logical person and could see how the stories may be difficult to believe. Then I examined religion like a pragmatic person and came up with more reasons to believe than not.I looked at the doctrine itself which taught things like not to kill and to be honest to not sleep with people’s husbands and wives, to raise your children to name just a few and it seemed to me if God wasn’t attached to the message no “good” person would disagree with the message. Christianity at its least was a how to guide for a life time of happiness. Another examination through logic with the benefits of the doctrine taken into consideration the believability of the history didn’t out weigh the results of living a good life and the possibility of life after death. As a pragmatic, logical person there was simply nothing to loose by believing. So Christianity just made sense to me and for me. You really gain nothing by not believing and…what if you are wrong…Simply, if you are a good person who wants to live a good life Christianity is a guide on how to do so and if you had no other reason to believe, this would be reason enough. #Christianity #love #religion #Trump #sex #dating

Men have an advantage in dating


Men have an advantage in dating and it is a burden they bear that no woman would want but could use. What is it, baited breath…REJECTION. In my extended years of dating, before I meet Mrs. Camack I noticed that women rarely did the approaching. In fact I can only remember once being directly approached by a woman interested in getting to know me. When I say extended I mean twenty years. When formulating this post I asked my wife how many times she had been rejected by a man she was interested in and she said two or three times, maybe. I said “IN YOUR LIFE?!” She said yeah, it was awful. I would assume most women would answer the same. At worst you may be able to quadruple that number. I told her on an average Saturday night in my twenties I would be rejected upwards of 10 times. I was relentless and would talk to women until someone bit. She found that amusing, as I explained before I am no stranger to losing.

Being rejected is very painful at 18 but by 20 it don’t hurt so much and by 25 “it is what it means to be a man.”  This has an effect on us that women don’t get in being the recipient of attention, we men learn our worth on the dating market. The constant rejection shows us who is available to us and who is out of our league. The result is we know who to target. We then have a choice to accept what we can get or make changes to improve our chance of getting what we want. For example, if we want a type of women and find that the ones we want aren’t interested we do things like go to the gym, get a nicer car, earn more money, etc. We learn our worth at such an early age we often design our lives around getting to a point where we can raise our worth. I personally realized that my “sweet-loving-slightly-chunky-not-particularly-well-dressed-with-little-to-no-money-self” could not attract the woman I wanted. I decided to make changes. A few years, 15 lbs, a six pack, a business and a brightened smile later I was juggling women I once couldn’t get the time of day from before. I was still the same sincere, caring individual I always was I just learned my worth and decided to up it.

Women on the other hand never learn what is available and what is out of their league. The idea that they have a designated “worth” is offensive at best! A man being beyond their reach because of who and what they are is a thought to be shunned while men must embrace it and do. This puts women at a disadvantage in comparison to their male counterparts because they don’t know who they should be trying to attract where men are zeroing in on a pool of potential mates they know they can have. It’s really that simple. I would love to hear your thoughts so don’t be afraid. I’m harmless, you didn’t forget I am a loser who wins a lot did you. #love, #dating, #relationships