I have to thank my parents. ..the bums 

I was raised by two less than sucessfull people.  They had more weaknesses than strengths but they had one thing in common that helped me tremendously in life. The talk, while some people walk it like they talk it. My parents just talked it, and did a damn good job at that. 

They were both born before the 50s in good financial situations. My maternal grandparents worked at the mill all their lives and managed home ownership,  a boat, a camper and summer vacations. They weren’t rich but both their children graduated college.

My faternal grandparents were both business owners. My grandfather owner a barbershop. My grandmother was the most successful of all, owning several business and in a time when the city was segregated she owned houses on the side of town she couldn’t live on. 

My parents grew up hearing the lessons of hard working and sucessfull people and while they couldn’t duplicate their parents sucess they could pass along the message. The same one I now pass along to my children.  I think one of the things parents today gave up that they should have kept was this saying my parents told me as a rule. “DO AS I SAY NOT AS I DO!” That adage is why I am a business owner, a graduate and according to my kids and wife a great father and husband. So like my parents …the loveable bums, I am passing on the knowledge necessary for success, a family legacy. #family,  #children, #America, #Americanvalues, #family, #familyvalues, #parent,  #wife, #Christian, #Christianity,  #Jesus, #love, #Christ, #money,  #self-employed, #workethic, #blacklove 

Opposites attract, then want to strangle each other…


Remember when we wanted someone who had strengths where we have weakness. Remember when we wanted someone who was good with money cause we suck. Remember when we wanted someone who was neat cause we are junkie.  What…you still want that. Oh no my friend, oh no.

In my many travels down loves lane I used the logic that someone who was good at what I am bad at would be the ideal mate…Then I met her or hers and guess what? My opposite was not what I needed. They could do all the things I couldn’t and I could do the stuff they couldn’t and it seemed like a match made in crazy heaven then reality showed up. See getting your opposite doesn’t work because the only person who hates your short comings more than you is someone who doesn’t share any of them. LOL! I made a funny.

All the conservative, anal women who were my opposite, who had balanced checkbooks and neat homes, couldn’t stand me once we left the bedroom and I wasn’t particularly fond of them either. When it came to money they didn’t help me manage it better, they just complained that I was irresponsible with it…well duh. When it came to tidiness they didn’t clean up after me. They called me a slob, which of course was true. I finally realized maybe I’m going about this wrong. Maybe I should try something else.

So, I dated my wife, but she wasn’t my wife then, and she wasn’t like me. No, no she was far worse. At first I thought we are gonna be living in our automobile and its going to be a garbage truck but you know what happened. She was so untidy, it made me more tidy. She was so irresponsible with money, I became budget minded. See what happened. The cure to my ills wasn’t someone better than me at stuff, it was someone worse. Now some eight years later she is much better at the stuff we use to share deficiencies in and I was patient and understanding, mostly, along the way cause hey  I understand, it does make sense to leave your shoes and jacket in the living room on the floor…you are just gonna put it on again tomorrow, or the next day, or eventually. #love, #lovesayings, #marriage, #dating, #romance, #sex, #women, #men, #oppositesattract

Why do we blacks celebrate living in the Ghetto 

I grew up in a southern ghetto and in my teens we moved to an urban ghetto. The two had similarities and stark difference.  In 1987 the one I went to, Newark, NJ embraced ghetto existence where the one I left, Greensboro,  NC didn’t.  It puzzled me that living in the ghetto could be a source of community identity and alligence. Where I came from we wanted out of our ghettos. 

Examination of the history of northern ghettos showed a patern of exodus from the ghettos by the original tenants, European immigrants who live there before black people took their places.  They had no desire to stay there yet blacks claimed the corners, the atmosphere,  the life in the ghetto as “keeping it real”. Why? Is it making the best of a bad situation?  I can only speculate since I didn’t feel the same way but I believe it was because black people want so desperately to own a piece of Americana that we will take what no one else wants as long as we can say it is ours. If that’s true it’s an indication that for all our efforts the  American dream is “just” a dream for those who think the ghettos of America is where they belong. #ghettolife, #nyc, #democratic,  #republican,  #America,  #Africanamerican, #americandream, #hiphop, #rap 

Colin Kaepernick’s worth to the NFL is microcosm of American  value system 

Let’s start with the gorilla in the room. Colin Kaepernick is being black balled because he is a black man who bucked the system by not standing up for the flag. That’s a little Spike Lee-ish of me. Or the owners are taking a moral stand for the sanctity of the Flag, that was my Trump impression . Ok…yeah he is a piriah with his 70s ‘fro and misguided crusade. The NFL owners don’t want him and after his admission to not having voted Black folks don’t respect his consciousness.  Man its tough being Kap. 

The American value system is out of whack. We love the flag but it is just a symbol.  We love freedom of speech right, it’s more than a symbol, right, it’s the American Way…ain’t it, no really,  ain’t it? They seem to be at odds here. How is that even possible?  I will tell you how, our value system has nothing grounding it. It seems to flutter around on the winds of societal whims.

Let’s look at the situation.  He is a middling QB with some issues. So many are saying he is out of work because he isn’t great but everyone who says that admits he could backup most places.  So what is it, he ain’t no good therefore unemployed or he is a problem child no one wants to touch? I tell you what if he had Aaron Rogers type skills he would be on somebody’s team even if he wiped his, well you know, with the flag and there you have it. 

Our moral outrage is counter balanced by what value we place on him. Meaning our morals have a value themselves. Yes, you are correct moral are SUPPOSED to be priceless.  Look at Ray Rice and Greg Hardy. I’m not sure beating women is tantamount to not standing for the flag but one player (the one on the decline) never played again after he knocked out his fiancee and the other (the one with double digit sacks when last he played) “deserved a second chance ” after he beat and threatened to kill a woman. How did that happen?

America’s value system is reflected in the Kap situation because if he were better he would have a job regardless of the Flag and that’s not how a value system is supposed to work. A value system is supposed to be rooted in morals and moral are supposed to be unwavering. We have work to do America. #spikelee, #nfl, #Kaepernick, #Ray Rice, #trump, #America, #Americanvalues, #morals, #Americanflagprotest, #blacklivesmatter 

 

The Tourney is America 

This is the greatest sporting event of the year. The most America sporting event and it’s why we love it. Think about the American way, its ok to have a a way, lol. Everyone has a chance to suceed. EVERYONE. 351 schools all have a shot at making the tournament and whoever, on a level playing field, earns it can go. What is more American than that? 

It is an American original since 1891. It is an American export that has become a passion of the world. The world that sends it best and brightest to American schools were they contribute to the game. What’s more American than that?

We love football like Christmas, a holiday for the world. We love the Tourney like Thanksgiving, a strictly America original. #goheels, #ncaa, #marchmadness, #acc, #Naismith, #America,  #college basketball

God is out of style…

God is out of style for the loud minority in America and I understand. I remember examining religion as a logical person and could see how the stories may be difficult to believe. Then I examined religion like a pragmatic person and came up with more reasons to believe than not.I looked at the doctrine itself which taught things like not to kill and to be honest to not sleep with people’s husbands and wives, to raise your children to name just a few and it seemed to me if God wasn’t attached to the message no “good” person would disagree with the message. Christianity at its least was a how to guide for a life time of happiness. Another examination through logic with the benefits of the doctrine taken into consideration the believability of the history didn’t out weigh the results of living a good life and the possibility of life after death. As a pragmatic, logical person there was simply nothing to loose by believing. So Christianity just made sense to me and for me. You really gain nothing by not believing and…what if you are wrong…Simply, if you are a good person who wants to live a good life Christianity is a guide on how to do so and if you had no other reason to believe, this would be reason enough. #Christianity #love #religion #Trump #sex #dating