The marriage rate has been on a steady decline since the mid 80s. Which coincidentally is about the same time the first generation of independent women came of age. We tell our daughters to be independent of the need for the financial support of men. Mainly because we love them and want them to always have their needs met.  Then they grow up and find there is only adulation and financial reward for their independence. That sounds great if you only want to date but if marriage is of interest then it’s just a beautiful gift box with nothing in it. The independent woman’s financial responsibility has guys coming out the woodwork to get a piece of her accomplishments but they need her more than she needs them. Women want to say “I’m the independent woman you told me to be, where’s my husband? Why can’t I find a good man?” 

I can tell you why. The very ideology that has made you independent is the sameone preventing your romantic sucess. You have been taught modern women don’t need men to take care of them, therefore you avoid men who want to take care of you. Below is the golden rule of how to identify a good man. 

“Not every man who wants to take care of you is a good man but there are no good men who don’t want to take care of you.”

A good man wants to take care of you, even if he can’t, even if you don’t need or want him to,  even if he feels its antiquated and tries to down play it.  In him is the natural inclination to provide your needs, protect and to covet you. It forces him to be understanding,  forgiving, engaged and studious where you’re concerned, all elements necessary to properly take care of someone,  all  necessites to have a sucessfull relationships with you. We are teaching women everything they need to know to be single. Then we tell them they should like it and there is satisfaction in camaraderie with like women…honestly who is really benefiting from that lessons? Isn’t there a way women can have both fulfilling careers and a man who wants to take care of them? #love, #romance, #marriage, #America, #Americanvalues, #lovesayings, #blacklove, #independentwomen, #goodman, #Christian, #sex, #dating

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