Men have an advantage in dating and it is a burden they bear that no woman would want but could use. What is it, baited breath…REJECTION. In my extended years of dating, before I meet Mrs. Camack I noticed that women rarely did the approaching. In fact I can only remember once being directly approached by a woman interested in getting to know me. When I say extended I mean twenty years. When formulating this post I asked my wife how many times she had been rejected by a man she was interested in and she said two or three times, maybe. I said “IN YOUR LIFE?!” She said yeah, it was awful. I would assume most women would answer the same. At worst you may be able to quadruple that number. I told her on an average Saturday night in my twenties I would be rejected upwards of 10 times. I was relentless and would talk to women until someone bit. She found that amusing, as I explained before I am no stranger to losing.
Being rejected is very painful at 18 but by 20 it don’t hurt so much and by 25 “it is what it means to be a man.” This has an effect on us that women don’t get in being the recipient of attention, we men learn our worth on the dating market. The constant rejection shows us who is available to us and who is out of our league. The result is we know who to target. We then have a choice to accept what we can get or make changes to improve our chance of getting what we want. For example, if we want a type of women and find that the ones we want aren’t interested we do things like go to the gym, get a nicer car, earn more money, etc. We learn our worth at such an early age we often design our lives around getting to a point where we can raise our worth. I personally realized that my “sweet-loving-slightly-chunky-not-particularly-well-dressed-with-little-to-no-money-self” could not attract the woman I wanted. I decided to make changes. A few years, 15 lbs, a six pack, a business and a brightened smile later I was juggling women I once couldn’t get the time of day from before. I was still the same sincere, caring individual I always was I just learned my worth and decided to up it.
Women on the other hand never learn what is available and what is out of their league. The idea that they have a designated “worth” is offensive at best! A man being beyond their reach because of who and what they are is a thought to be shunned while men must embrace it and do. This puts women at a disadvantage in comparison to their male counterparts because they don’t know who they should be trying to attract where men are zeroing in on a pool of potential mates they know they can have. It’s really that simple. I would love to hear your thoughts so don’t be afraid. I’m harmless, you didn’t forget I am a loser who wins a lot did you. #love, #dating, #relationships